Are relationships a loaded topic for you? Are you happily married with the number of kids you can adore (or none), getting along beautifully with all family members and co-workers while having fulfilling interactions with friends and a wide variety of people in your larger community? Sound like an impossible dream? Not necessarily. A bit of a Feng Shui for your relationships can go a long way to having any of these intentions become a reality.
Taking a look at your home’s Feng Shui Bagua Map gives you the opportunity to focus more closely on how your relationships really are doing as well as determine how your home’s current arrangement is supporting the outcome of those relationships. Then you can begin to create your Feng Shui home to call in the energy that can help you bliss out with everyone you meet. You can get your own FREE DOWNLOAD of my Feng Shui Bagua Map to get started.
Place the Feng Shui Bagua Map over your floor plan to reveal which room or rooms hold the Relationship gua. Generally, when standing at your front door facing the house, the Relationship area is in the back, right corner of the Bagua Map. This method only works if your home is a true rectangle or a square. If not, you’ll want to check out my Feng Shui Bagua Series for how to Feng Shui that type of floor plan. You can do it, give it a try!
Now that you know where your Relationship gua is located, let’s dive into some of the things you might learn from it.
Known as the gua of love, this area is associated with marriage, partnership, friends, colleagues and how we relate to people in general. Representing the most yin trigram, K’un – meaning Earth, it signifies flexibility, yielding and commitment. When both partners are flexible and take the other into consideration, a strong partnership emerges. This gua also refers to the relationship we have with ourselves.
Define Your Feng Shui Intentions for Relationships
To work with the energy of your home and make it more fully supportive, it is important to be clear on your intentions. Whether a new goal or a long standing issue you’d like to improve, there is a Feng Shui adjustment that can be applied.
Take a closer look at the Relationship gua when:
- You are seeking a new romantic relationship
- New people for work, community or social situations are desired
- You need a partner for your business
- A longtime relationship has lost its connection
- Relationships of all sorts seem to be challenging
- Self-love or forgiveness work is part of your current quest
- You are actively undergoing therapy
- There is a danger of getting burnt out and extreme self care is needed
- More nurturing, caring interactions are sought
- You would like to feel more settled and grounded
- Health issues with female organs, the stomach or skin are present
- You are seeking relief from overwhelm or depression
- The mother in the household needs extra support
Place a Feng Shui Enhancement for Relationship
Now that an intention has been identified, a Feng Shui Enhancement can be added somewhere in the Relationship area of your home. However, there is a special requirement for this gua. Although it does encompass the personal relationship we have with ourselves, on a broader scale this gua represents the auspicious interaction between two individuals. Therefore, when placing an item for your enhancement here, always include TWO items of the SAME SIZE that are RELATING to one another.
Although it may seem like a simple explanation, so many of my Clients have had questions about this suggestion that I’d like to provide a little more detail. First, here’s a few examples of items of the same size that are relating:
Now, what do you think about these?
The left hand image above has three people so that would not be suitable. The flamingo is relating to the cottage but they are very different sizes. Mother and child are definitely relating but, although their sizes are in scale, the relationship is not as equals.
Now that you have that down, here are some appropriate categories you can consider when choosing your items for the Relationship area:
- Pairs such as candlesticks, salt and pepper shakers or easy chairs
- Figurines of couples or two separate figurines interacting
- Rose quartz crystals or hearts
- Lighting in pairs such as sconces or candles
- Books about romance or relationship building
- Accessories, cards or other items signifying a strong relationship
- Photos of couples such as wedding or anniversary pictures
- A photo of you and your mate enjoying life
- Art of equal sized people, animals, birds, or landscapes with any pairs in them
- Two pieces of artwork of the same size and general subject matter that are hung together as a pair, relating to one another
- Walls, accessories or other decor in the colors red, white or pink (don’t need a pair)
- An affirmation expressing your highest vision for relationship or partnership
- Note: Angels, Ganesh, Buddha, or other religious deities or figures are best used in the Knowledge and Self-Cultivation gua as the Relationship area is about the interaction of two individuals .
What symbolizes love or a good relationship to you? I seem to love kitchy salt and pepper shakers of little critters like pelicans or kiwi birds. Once you’ve made a selection you can place it, with intention, in your Relationship area.
Don’t know what would work for you? Unsure that Feng Shui can tackle your relationship challenges? If you’d like some additional support, I offer Feng Shui consultations. Contact me to set up an appointment. We can talk through and clarify your intentions, choose a fabulous enhancement and pinpoint some additional Feng Shui enhancements you can make to smooth out the relationship kinks. One hour together may be all that’s needed to begin to improve a life challenge that’s been troubling you for some time.
Isn’t it incredible that this ancient Chinese system can offer so many solutions for us today? What about the Bagua’s treasures for relationship most surprised you and how will you get started? Join me in using the wisdom and beauty of Feng Shui to bring more peace and harmony to our homes and our world!
10 thoughts on “The Feng Shui Bagua for Relationships”
The relationship corner of the Bagua Map is in my dining room. How would I make this work to attract a relationship?
Great question June. Artwork or accessories with two like-sized items can be used. In this post you probably saw the photo of my artwork with two shells. It is in my Breakfast Nook. If you’d like something more specific to dining, perhaps set a beautiful, romantic table for two. You could complete the setting with two red candles. Burn them nightly to symbolize the second person coming your way. You can also keep a light burning in that gua. Check out my post on the Feng Shui Energy Boost: Lighting. It provides details on this Feng Shui adjustment. Will one of these work for you?
Hope you’re still checking this post. I have a question about my classroom. I’m a teacher and my desk is in the love/relationship Gua. I’m unsure how to proceed. I don’t want my relationships (at work or in my personal life) to feel like work. How do I decorate this area? How do I functionally use this area for my desk and small group instruction?
Jamie, I have done a couple of consultations with teachers. The first thing you want to be sure of is that your desk is in the Power Position. Next, realize that a work situation is more Yang (public, outward, forward, driven, etc.) than your private life. Thus, relationships should be different in each setting. Enhance this area with a relationship enhancement that relates to you and an equal partner. The students should not be equal as you are the authority figure in the classroom. Feng Shui is also about balance through right relationship, recognizing that there is duality (Yin and Yang) and times when balance is reached through inequality. Does that help you decipher your situation?
Hi Carol, as soon we moved to newly build house all Friendships are in bitter notes. We have an wide door open at the back centre. How do I fix this?
Oh, Olivia, that is unsettling. You are suspecting the Fame area in the center back of your home? Is this door aligned with one in the front so that the Ch’i rushes out of it? If so, place a piece of furniture in that path. There could be any number of things creating the imbalance. Perhaps there is too much Water Element in that area. Glass and shiny reflective materials as well as actual water (is there a pool?) can “douse” the Fire Element of Fame. Does the land drop off in the back or sides of the structure? Is the front door visible from the approach to the home? Many individual, or a combination, of factors could be influencing this change. Perhaps you would like to seek a short consultation, sending photographs and a floor plan of the dwelling. Also, have you invited everyone for a welcoming celebration to introduce them to the home?
Thank you Carol for your reply!
Yes, back door is align with front door and opens up at the grass back yard. But we have small wall and a big tree trunk in the front of the front door. Also, dining table is in the front of back middle glass door.
Yes, we have thrown a house warming party when we moved last year. When we started to build this house I steered to feel that every relationship is getting worst.
Can you suggest a solution to fix this? But now is called confirmed because since then we have lost long term friends.
Because of the very noticeable changes in relationship since your move and the new information about the tree in front, I’m suspecting that there may be more than one factor contributing. Without a thorough evaluation with a consultation, I could suggest working with the front door, inviting in welcoming Ch’i with a wind chime or other Energy Boost. Also, take a close look at your home’s Relationship Bagua area as well as the Relationship area in each individual room. Perhaps you will start to unearth a common theme in these areas. I am also available for a consultation where I could work with more complete information of your unique situation.
Hi. My relationship area is my garage. How do I fix this to encourage great relationship.i put all my junk in the garage. Anything I don’t use, my trash bin is there.
Great question Anna. I suggest you check out my post on Clutter Clearing as anything you don’t need, use or love is clutter. Symbolically, could clutter in the garage may be reflecting clutter in your relationships? Keep the garage organized and clean so that each time you enter you are ecstatic to see how great it’s looking. Also, as described in this post, add a Relationship gua enhancement to the area. A bit of decoration there (2 items of the same size that are relating to one another) in the form of a poster, sign, or perhaps something else that hangs on the wall can boost the Ch’i energy. Check out the Relationship in each of your other rooms as well. Use the door to the room as the wall to overlay the bottom of the Bagua Map and proceed from there. When I’ve done that throughout my home I’ve been amazed at how a specific gua can be under-energized in various rooms. Let me know how your Feng Shui changes go.